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Writer’s block

“Writer’s block is a condition, primarily associated with writing, in which an author loses the ability to produce new work, or experiences a creative slowdown. The condition ranges from difficulty in coming up with original ideas to being unable to produce a work for years.“- Wikipedia

It is said that if you establish a habit of writing regularly, it would significantly improve your writing skill. However all of us experience a writer’s block every now and then. In this post I’ll be sharing my take on writer’s block and things I do to overcome it.

Sometimes I feel a sudden urge to write for instance a few weeks back I had just finished my run in a park, I was relaxing after, enjoying the fresh breeze when I felt like writing about my experience of running/walking in a park. Another time was when I was unable to sleep at night and was having all kinds of weird thoughts. This was when I wrote about post 12 am thoughts.

Point being that in the instances I mentioned above, the urge to write was natural. I did not have to force myself to write about those experience. However at times when I experience the writer’s block, I try and think of things that make me feel good. I recall any movies that I recently watched, a song that I like to listen to or maybe a book that I enjoyed reading.

Recently I wrote a song review on a song that I always enjoy listening to. So this is how I overcome my writer’s block. And I hope to keep doing it because I do want to work on my writing skills. It feels good to be able to express an experience in words in a way that readers could relate to it.

What are some ways in which you overcome a writer’s block? Do share in comments below 🙂

Awkward Talking with self part 2

This is part 2 of talking with self- something I started as part of regular positive self talk

Me then: I swear to God I will never get a job again. I quit. Going to spend the rest of my life staying on bed.
Me now: It’s okay if you quit. Maybe it got to a point where you couldn’t take it anymore. It’s really not the end of the world.

Me then: It is actually the end of the world. The end of my world. I am done.
Me now: You have a lot more to give. A lot more to do. No world ever ends like this in an instant.

Me then: And how exactly will I give and do while staying in bed?
Me now: You will be spending a lot of time in bed for a short period of time and that’s okay. But then you are going to get up and continue fighting the good fight.

Me then: There isn’t any fight left in me.
Me now: Well that’s your short sightedness.

Me then: I won’t have a job ever so how exactly am I surviving on the long run?
Me now: But you just went out for an interview and guess what? You got the job!

Me then: Stop kidding. As if that’s ever going to happen.
Me now: Not only this, a lot more is going to happen. Just wait and watch.

JUST WAIT AND WATCH

Talking with self

Here you can find some benefits of talking with self: https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk#benefits-of-self–talk

If you want to to check out the first version of this self talk initiative, head over to: https://reasonstolivefor.com/conversation-with-myself/

Song Review

You’ve heard of movie reviews, show reviews, match reviews but song review? Whaaat?

The song that has pushed me to write a review about it is Light by San Holo. Happy times, sad times, dicey times, depressing times- this is my go to song.

The song does not have a lot of lyrics, it has kind of the same lines repeating over and over again but believe me they get to me everytime. Every single time.

It goes like this:

Even if it makes me blind
I just wanna see the light
Breathing, leave it all behind
I just wanna see the light

I could relate to it in so many ways. Here is my interpretation of it- everyone lives to see the light. The light is that place in our minds that gives us peace, that relaxes us in times when things gets tough. It is a hope of a better future. It is a hope for better times. For some it might be a job they want to secure, for some it might be recovering from an illness, for me it is travelling to places I dream to visit.

So even if it makes me blind, I just want to see the light. The light will set me free, the light is what I’ll fight for. Even if the barriers and obstacles along the way make me blind.

In my personal opinion, that’s a beautiful interpretation (hehe). I’m attaching a link below, do give it a listen and let me know in comments what you think about the song 🙂

Light- San Holo

I miss

the happy me

the social me

the confident me

the dancing me

the laughing me

the singing me

the happy go lucky me

the hopeful me

the positive me

the old me

i miss me

Are you lying to yourself?

You can cheat the world, but you can never cheat yourself. In times that you are running away from everything, make sure you do not start running from yourself. That is the worst thing you could do. When life got tough, when I got knocked to the ground, I started believing that I had no purpose of existing. That I had no dreams to follow, no true passion or a good enough reason for existence.

Sunrise in Cappadocia, Turkey, with balloons and typical fairy chimney

Have a look at the picture above. This is Cappadocia, a historical region in Central Anatolia (Turkey). I do not think there is any person in the world who would not want to visit this. In my habitual day dreaming one day I thought to myself, is this what heaven looks like? I envisioned how great would it be if I could visit it.

In that moment I knew that I had to do something about this. I said to myself that this a dream that is good enough to have. So I have announced to the universe that I will visit this place by the end of 2019. I have no idea how I am going to do it but if there is anything that I want to do, it is this.

Please send prayers my way so I can achieve what I aspire to. What are some dreams that keep you going? Please share in comments below 🙂

Reinventing yourself

Once you’re done with all the self pity, sooner or later you start to realize that you’ve been sad for a long period of time. Although you might think that you’ll stay sad forever but here’s the good news: that is NOT true.

See here’s the thing: when you keep trying and wanting something to happen but it doesn’t work out the way you had thought it would, you end up being disappointed. Being disappointed over and over again translates into hopelessness and this is when the ” I’ll be sad forever ” phase kicks in.

It’s only natural. It may hold true for a finite period of time (for me it has lasted for months) to the point that I’m writing this now. But like I said months back i had thought it will last forever and it did not. Which is why i am here, writing this positive post because I am slightly hopeful now.

In my case I am pretty much bored of being sad. This is a good enough reason to make a change as long as it works for you. However change does not happen overnight. It comes with a routine, it comes with discipline, it comes with a plan.

The plan here is to start taking small steps. Sometimes we may or may not realize but these small steps instill a sense of achievement in us. My small steps include making my bed first thing when I wake up and have water. For this I have set a reminder at the time when i usually wake up. I will make my bed even if i know that I’ll be lying on it for most parts of the day.

To ensure that you will follow what you have planned, prepare in advance. Keep a glass of water on your side table so it serves as another reminder when you’re up. And with this I start my journey to reinvent myself!

How do you plan to reinvent yourself? What are the small steps that you will take in order to do so? Please share in comments below.

No one saves you

I know it sounds like a cliche. I know you have heard it a lot of times before. But let me just put it here one more time for the record that no one saves you. There, I said it.

This is for me and everyone who has paused their lives, watching as the world goes, watching as people around progress, watching themselves age and waiting for a super hero to come for their rescue.

Newsflash: there is no super hero. So while you stay in the nest you created and keep feeling bad about it, life is constantly happening around and the world is moving on.

No one has stopped just because you have stopped. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends, no one. So it is about time you accept your situation and move on.

I don’t care how bad you have it, I don’t care how unfair it is, I don’t care why it had to be you but it is bad, it is unfair and you have it. Until and unless you do not accept this reality and stay in your bubble, nothing is going to change.

So be there for yourself and that’s all that you’re ever going to need. Be your own hero, fight your battle, save yourself because no one saves you.

Genuine Advice: How To Find Motivation When You Are Depressed

How To Find Motivation When You Are Depressed

During my darkest days my most common search term would be “How to find motivation when you are depressed” so finally when I started my own blog I thought it is a must that I write a piece on it.

The most difficult part is to motivate yourself to get out of bed, get dressed, put those running shoes on and head out to walk. But as I’m sitting here in a park while writing this post, let me tell you that it is totally worth it. The key is to make it and half the battle is won there. So a simple reminder to self “I am feeling like shit right now but I will feel much better once I am there” works well every time.

My every day routine comprises of four major areas and days where I tick off all four are the most ideal ones. These areas are:
1- Journaling: Basically visualizing how my day looks like. What personal and professional goals I aspire to achieve in that specific day and what is the strategy that I will implement to achieve it. The next I go back to the previous entry to see if I actually succeeded in the things I set my mind on to. The remaining ones get carried forward to the next day.

2- Waking up early in morning (aiming for 5 am): A great author by the name of Robin Sharma has written an entire book named the 5 am club where he talks about all the benefits of waking up early every morning. To summarize it he states that it is the only time in the entire day that people have for themselves. This is because during that time there are zero distractions and you can kick start your day while the world is still sleeping.

3- Reading: This serves as learning for me each and everyday. I am more interesting in reading books and articles on self help, development and growth.

4- Working out: I have talked about this in detail below, please keep reading.

I just finished a 3 km run in 30 minutes (I don’t know if that is good or bad for starters) and I loved the feeling of my heart beat faster each time that i paced up. That on top of my favorite song playing in the background was a real good feeling. Scientifically proved, running and sweating releases some feel good chemicals called endorphins and this entire activity acts as an anti-depressant (more information here). I can personally vouch for this because days when I work out or go for a run are my happy days when I am naturally feeling better.

So what is the point of documenting this down? Simple, this will serve as a reminder for me to come here again and more often the next time I don’t feel like coming, the next time I feel like it won’t be worth it. We all need reminders for ourselves that push us into action. Another thing that can push you into action is following the Mel Robbins 5 second rule. You can find all details about this rule here.

Conclusion
Everything aside, it is at least better than staying in bed and spending that time in pointless overthinking. Also, I had no idea of what I will be writing about next, the fresh air kind of motivated me to write. So that made it a win-win kind of situation. You also need to remind yourself of all that is good in life, head over here if you would like to see how I do it: https://reasonstolivefor.com/reminders-for-self-love/

Do share your feedback on this post and let me know what reminders would you like to give to yourself that can motivate you to head out. I would love to know about your take on “How to find motivation when you are depressed”

Confession : Can’t Sleep With Anxiety

The clock strikes midnight once again and here I am thinking well, I survived another day but I can’t sleep with anxiety. Although I do feel tired physically but the mind does not stop ticking.

can't sleep with anxiety 

I know when I’m up in the morning i will be questioning my existence- why am i still here? The thought of dragging myself through the day putting it’s weight on me. It is not like this is the first time it is happening; in fact, I am kind of getting used to nights like these. I would give up anything in the world just to get a good night’s rest but for now, I can’t sleep with anxiety.

Given the fact that I am not comfortable however this is the time when I am at peace with myself. When everyone is sleeping but I’m the only one who is up. It is the perfect time to question my existence. They say what happens when humans use 100% of their, this is what happens I guess.

Where did everything go wrong? What did I miss? What could I have done otherwise? How can I feel better? How do I make this stop? When will I finally be happy? Did it all crash at a sudden or were there episodes where I kept falling and ultimately hit the ground? All sorts of questions keep running in my mind. There are too many of questions without any answers.

They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I don’t think that holds true in my case because every time I fell, it was more difficult to get up again. And eventually the great fall came when I didn’t even bother standing up again. I am wondering what is even the point of it? The feeling is such that I do not have the energy to go over it once more. I can use a stop over, would be nice to put a short hold on this journey.

There comes a time when you say what’s even the point of trying? That point has come. I’ll just sit here, lie here, wait here as I see the world around me passing by. I will see friends moving on, lovers get married, colleagues climb the corporate ladder and relatives move abroad.

I’ll just keep wondering how great it would have been if i was moving along. But I haven’t moved in a while. This stopover, though it is a torture, at the same time it is sort of relaxing. It has made me numb to all emotions, I barely feel anything anymore.

In the end there are only questions and no clear answers. How long would i be stuck at this stopover? When is the next time that I will move? What is it (if anything) that will motivate me to make a move? Spent quite sometime trying to find my passion but I don’t think that is happening anytime soon.

Because it cannot go on like this. Not anymore. Really looking forward to the next stopover, but till then I must move. There is a great quote that I would love to share here:
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.

It is very difficult to shift your focus towards positivity in such nights when you can’t sleep with anxiety, but here is something that might help: https://reasonstolivefor.com/reminders-for-self-love/
I am sending lots of love to everyone who can’t sleep with anxiety.

Also, I would love to know how do you all cope in such nights, do let me know in comments below 🙂

Intriguing Conversation with myself

Conversation with myself


Another practice that is remedial during tough times is to have a conversation with myself. The purpose of this practice is to remind myself of all the good things that have happened ever since I last gave up as a reminder to keep going.

There is a realization that came to me overtime but I am glad it did. I have realized that my best version is years away from now so instead of being sad over the fact that I have not reached where I wanted to, I am hopeful because I know for sure that the best version of me will come. It will happen, this is my faith. For this, I will have to put in a lot of effort, it won’t be easy but definitely worth it.

For instance it has been over an year since I had my last depressive episode so this is how my conversation with myself looks like:

Me then: It is over, I am done, I will not try anymore, Nothing works for me.
Me now: Easy there, if something is not working at this point in time, it does not mean nothing will ever work.

Me then: How is anything going to work out if I don’t leave my room and don’t do anything at all?
Me now: Like I said, this is how you feel at the moment; what if I tell you that not only will you leave your room, you will be on stage in a packed auditorium giving a motivational speech.

Me then:  Are you kidding me? I cannot imagine being in the audience let alone giving a speech on stage.
Me now: You will and it is going to be amazing and it will end up inspiring others. Not only this, you will make a support group as well which will help others to open up.

Me then: I have lost all my friends; I have literally nothing to look forward to.
Me now: Well you will meet some amazing people and befriend some of them; they still keep a check on you.

Me then: I will always be confused as to what I want to do in life and what makes me happy.
Me now: Just have a look at your blog, see how it gives hope to so many. I am sure this keeps you going and makes you happy!

Me then: Give me some sort of proof.
Me now: I cannot. Just keep going and stop imagining the worse out of everything. Good things will happen. Trust me. I will end this conversation on this amazing quote by one of your new friends- “Nothing lasts forever it will pass in a BLINK, you can change the world but only if you THINK”

Conversation with myself

I will conclude with the fact that our mind is very powerful and it believes in whatever we feed it with. If we keep beating our self up, pushing our self down with negativity then our mind will be convinced to push us further down and keep us there. But this works the other way as well, if we treat our self with kindness and practice positive self affirmation, our mind will finally give in and actually start to believe that we are awesome. That we can do amazing things in life only if we set our mind and heart onto it. Having a conversation with myself is one way that keeps my belief strong and keeps me going.

Here you can find some benefits of positive self talk: https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk#benefits-of-self–talk

Please share your feedback on this post in comments. Also, do share some positive self talk which you practice 🙂 

If you want to check out the next part of Conversation with myself head over to https://reasonstolivefor.com/talking-with-self

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