You must have read so many times that winning is not just luck; it is a habit, a lifestyle! So in this article I will try to sum up 4 Steps of Strategic Planning to win at life. Of course luck plays a part in success too but then I would like to believe that luck favors the prepared!
Since I never preach what I do not practice myself, rest assured that these steps have been personally tried and tested. The good thing is that if you repeat these consistently overtime, they become a routine. You will no longer have to make an effort to follow because they will become a natural part of your everyday life.
Just like when you drive overtime you do not have to look at the gear box every time to change gears or glance down to where the brake and accelerator pedal is like you used to do when you were learning how to drive.
1- Be mindful of your thoughts:
Never let your thoughts run unmonitored. Think about what you think, be aware. In fact try this out, whenever you have a negative thought, stomp on the ground! While you stomp, imagine you are stomping an ant which is actually the negative thought. ANTs are Automatic Negative Thoughts – like, “I’m not smart enough” or, “I have a bad memory.”
2- Replace EVERY negative thought with a positive one:
For example- “I am worthless”
Replace this with “I am not as bad as I think about myself. I have a great personality, have had a great education, have a supportive family and many blessings that I discard. Maybe I am lost at the moment but I will figure it all out in due time.“
No matter how much we deny, there is always something positive going on our in life that we don’t give much attention to. However once we start being mindful of our thoughts, these positive things become more apparent and we are then able to address them appropriately.
3- Add to your existing bucket of knowledge:
This can be done by reading a book, watching motivational videos or even following someone who was stuck in a similar situation but eventually got out of it. Having a mentor can help you immensely because this is someone who has already achieved what you strive to achieve.
There are various new avenues of learning that I have come across overtime. I remember when I started listening to podcasts, it was like utilizing the same time in a day that was previously being spent in a non-productive activity. Ideally I would listen to them during commute or at night when I could not sleep.
4- Take action:
Even if it is the smallest of actions. This includes making your bed in the morning, having a glass of water when you wake up, taking a shower regularly, going out for a walk/jog, working out, going out for coffee. Does not matter if it’s a small action but what’s important is you need to be consistent. You need to do it EVERYDAY.
To quote Robin Sharma: “The smallest of actions is always better than the noblest of intentions”
That sums up the 4 steps of strategic planning to win to achieve greatness! Following these steps in the beginning might seem to be forceful but if you do it enough times everyday it will eventually become a part of your being. I would like to share one of the most beautiful quotes by Robin Sharma to perfectly sum it up: “All change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and so gorgeous at the end.”
Starting 23rd March, the government of Pakistan announced a nationwide lockdown as a preventive measure against spread of coronavirus. In my quarantine story I talk about how I have managed to cope so far and the thought process that helped me in doing so.
I read a beautiful post which stated that how we view this pandemic and operate while locked down depends on our perspective about it. Think of this, say 5 years from now when you look back at it, how do you want to view it?
Do you want to say things like I was terrified? The end of the world? I was locked down for days I didn’t leave my house? I mean all this is fine but what good would it bring?
Would you rather remember it as a time when you invested a lot in yourself? For instance I have gotten very consistent with my blog lately. What was I waiting for to realize this amazing skill that I have?
Come to think of it, it really is a privilege to -work from home -staying at home in a non-toxic environment -do nothing yet survive -be in a healthy mental state -be in a healthy physical state -be in a healthy spiritual state
There is an affirmation that I repeat everyday at least 5 times: “Day by day, in every way, I am getting better and better” 😊
Although at first it sounded very superficial but overtime I started observing a very positive effect in my life. So much so that I now get external validation to the fact that I am, in fact, getting better and better everyday.
No matter what perspective you choose, your quarantine story is yours to tell. And it will be different than my story or anyone else’s. The only request or advise is to make this story a positive one. One from which future generations can take a learning.
God forbid if something of the sort is to return in future, may your story help others to cope. To view lockdowns as a time much needed for self. Rather than viewing them as a halt to your progress.
If you are someone who wants to grow and progress in life, trust me no pandemic can ever stop you. Again, this is my personal story and I don’t want to impose it on someone else.
With all said and done I do realize that not everyone has the mental capacity to cope and spend all this time productively. So if you’re someone who simply survives this time and comes out sane, know that you have done enough and this is no little achievement in itself.
Have you ever been in situations where motivation just doesn’t come naturally? I am sure you have. It happens with the best of us. This article will help support your cause of Fighting The Good Fight
The good news is, all of us can battle our urges and come out victorious. My friend Anton once told me something that really inspired me. He said one day when he woke up, he did not feel quite motivated to get out of bed. In that moment he said this out loud: “It is not about what the mind thinks, it is about what I do. I am in control. Get up”
And with this he just bounced out and got started with the day. I am sure this must be relatable for so many of us. Sometimes when we get started with something important, our mind gives us various excuses like: I am too tired for this, this can be done tomorrow, it is not a priority, I am too bored to do this, maybe I could watch a movie instead.
In such moments we need to do what Anton did; Take control, be conscious and be mindful of our actions. Remember, you control your mind and not the other way around. This is how you convince your mind to keep fighting the good fight!
“Motivation does not come naturally, it is forged by actions. It is much like surfing when you come to think of it. Sometimes, inspirations help you to catch the wave. You are in the flow to create.
But most days, we aren’t on the wave. We have to get up on it ourselves. That requires effort and willpower. The problem isn’t to execute what your about to do. Everyone knows how to leave the bed. The challenge lays within overcoming your mind.
If you want to surf the wave and become naturally motivated to create, you will have to win the battle of entering it. Overcome your fear, overcome your doubts, overcome your mind.
Be in control, dictate your life
In order to achieve what the other 95% cannot achieve, you have to do what that major chunk of population is NOT willing to do. What will this differentiating factor be? How will you choose to stand out among the crowd, the choice is yours!
If you are always looking for external factors to motivate you, chances are that you will keep running out of it. Let me give you an example: if your goal is to make a million rupees, this will be an external source of motivation for you to keep working hard. But what happens once you end up making this amount?
Hence your goal should be one that motivates you for a long time. Let’s say your goal is to end world poverty, then this is such a goal that can never be achieved realistically, but can keep you going for a lifetime. I read an amazing quote once which said, “If others are not laughing at your dream, then your dream is not big enough“
So never be a miser when it comes to goal setting and dreaming. Dream on and dream until your dreams come true!
This article has been written in collaboration with Anton M. G. Lindberg. I know Anton because we have something in common — we are both proud members of the 5 am club. Although I am sure he is much better at keeping up than me haha. Although a thousand miles apart I can trust Anton to be an inspiration whenever needed. This is what happens when you use technology for all the right reasons 😉
You may have heard that a person is the average of the 5 people he surrounds himself with. These generally include your immediate family and closest friends. So I want you to take this moment and think about your closest friends. This article will focus on How To Make Your Personality Better.
Do they get excited when you share good news with them? When you get good grades? When you get a promotion? When you share your success story?
And are they there for you when no one else is around? When you feel defeated? When you suffer a loss? When the world seems to be ending for you?
If the answer to both sets of questions is yes then you are in a positive environment, no need to worry. However, if the answer to even one set of questions is no, I believe it is time to consider new friendships and let go of toxic ones.
At times your closest friends and even family members are the source of toxicity in your life but you fail to realize just because you have been friends with them for X number of years of because they are family. This justification does not make sense at all. You have every right to cut off from people who do not add to your cause or add any value to your life.
This can be one of the most difficult things in life. But you got to do what you got to do. Take this moment to identify people who are not adding any value to your life. Then go ahead and delete them from your Facebook friends list, unfollow them on Instagram. Also be mindful of where you are spending most of your time at.
If you ask successful people, the most common answers would include places like the gym, office, parks, conferences, training or any other productive place. Rarely would you come across any who say they spend a significant amount of time watching TV or Netflix. They are well aware of the importance of their time and make the most of it.
Another major factor that shapes our personality is our very own nature we are born with. Have you noticed siblings that grew up in similar family patterns and yet turned out to have very different personalities? Although there might be an effect of the different times siblings grow up in, sometimes differences between siblings are too big to be explained by mere change in time.
Some people are born as extroverts while others are geared towards a more introverted nature. Some like lazy days while others adore work. Some are more artistic whereas others are more for academic-like studies. We all have our tendencies.
The important point here is that no one is fully an extrovert or an introvert. No one likes lazy days at all times without fail and no one likes to work all the time. Most of us fall somewhere in between. What we should do, then, is to make the best use of our tendencies while keeping the variation in us alive so that we do not become bland, single-sided person.
Say you have artistic abilities. You ignore this and focus only on academic work. This falsely-located focus will eventually lead to internal conflict, unhappiness and even depression because you will not be true to your natural tendencies. Instead, you can try to improve your artistic abilities all along. This way, you will be you. You will be as you were meant to be. In the meantime, do not forget your academic studies, since you will need them in life.
Yet another factor is our education. Education is supposed to bring out the best in you. It should feed your abilities so that you can make the best of them, which in turn helps you become more peaceful and contribute more to humanity. That is the ideal. The reality is that a lot of education systems cannot accommodate the diversity of the students they have.
So, if you are an artistic person, you are probably going to be challenged harder in an education system which focuses solely on hard-core science classes and grades. You will probably be labeled as shy or aloof. This seems to happen quite often across the globe. Likewise, if you are an extrovert, you might find it harder to contain your energy if your classes are all the sit-in type.
You might need a classroom where you can walk around and perhaps work on projects. If this is not possible, you might be likely to be labeled as a naughty student that doesn’t care about school. The best we can do as students is to at least have some side project where we can pursue our likes.
Conclusion The best we can do as parents is to send our children to schools that will help them (which requires an understanding of the strengths of our children). The best we can do as teachers is to try to accommodate as many students as possible with various types of activities and styles of teaching. If these all can work together, we can get a better result.
One of the issues of the modern society is that a lot of people, especially youngsters, don’t truly value themselves and don’t really believe in their capacities. “I Am Not Good Enough” is one of the most common phrases we hear among such individuals.
To see if you are one of them, let’s examine the following sentences. Have you ever thought of yourself that you’re not good enough to do something or you’re not good enough for somebody? Have you ever thought about not being able to finish a certain task or work? Have you ever thought of yourself: I’m not good enough, I don’t know etc.? If you have, then exists a big possibility that you are not (or were not) completely aware of the potential within you.
Atelophobia is defined as the fear of not doing something right or the fear of not being good enough. In other words, it’s a fear of imperfection.
The thing is that each one of us is capable of doing whatever our minds can imagine. What’s more, there is usually more than just one way to the realization of our goals. Most of successful people might say, that without hard work nothing can be achieved, while others might emphasize more the law of attraction, visualization and gratefulness. No matter which tools each person chooses, if you keep on being persistent, there’s nothing you wouldn’t be able to achieve.
WHY A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK “I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH”?
There’s a lot of possibility that most of people who have negative thoughts about themselves, have been implanted those thoughts already in the childhood (until the age of 10 our neocortex – analytical part of the brain – is not developed yet. The consequence is that children up to that age easily absorb most of the things they see and are being taught – because their brain is not developed to the point to be able to differentiate between what’s good and what’s bad for them).
It’s a fact that our self-image is mostly created during the first years after being born, that is, mostly in the family environment. Most of the times those beliefs were even not intentionally served to us. Knowing this, you might wonder, why would somebody that’s supposed to love us, give us negative thoughts about ourselves, hence the thoughts that might harm us in the future.
Before you start putting blame on other people, you need to understand that most probably they were given the same thoughts from their ancestors. If their ancestors never learned anything about the personal development in general, I’m sure that up until today they still don’t have a slightest clue about their wrong doing.
The good thing is, that with growing up it seems you found yourself lost in a new place and are right now looking for solution. If it wouldn’t be like this, I’m sure you wouldn’t be reading this article. Moreover, I believe that this article was brought to you because you need it and it will help you to believe in yourself again and make you realize about your true potential.
The fact is that you are reading this article because you probably need it at the present moment in your life and it has a potential of making you a better person. Moreover, if you are aware of this missing piece in your life it means that you are also capable of improving it. See, the realization of the problem is often a very good start on the way of healing and improving your life.
But before you continue with the article, which is also going to offer you solutions, you need to be 100% certain, that you are willing to work on yourself and that you are ready to see yourself as the center of the universe, because that’s how you should see yourself – as one and only priority, but with a great extent of humbleness – you are the center of the universe, but you’re not the only one in the center.
THE RESULT OF COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Comparing yourself to other people will not bring anything good to you. So why do it? If you try to compare yourself to someone else, you will be able to see a lot of differences between you two. Because there are not two people on this Earth that would be the same. The comparison will only make you anxious and make you question your abilities and potential.
It’s actually completely impossible to compare two people. Each one of us has a different background, different social and financial status, received different kind of knowledge, has different perspective on life and the way of overcoming the problems and most importantly, each one of us has different perspective on life and has different goals. Knowing this, can you see why it is totally unnecessary and »stupid« to compare yourself to others?
If you really want to take one thing for the compassion of your improvement or success, why not compare yourself to the person you were yesterday, one week ago, one month or one year ago. In this way you will be able to see objectively your progress or decline. Make it a goal to be a better person with each passing day, and every day try to do just a little bit more than you did yesterday. Make a competition with yourself and I guarantee you, that you will become not just better, but the best.
WORKING TOWARDS YOUR GOALS
It’s the universal law that the more you work for and towards your goals, the more confident you can become. Every achieved goal is just a result of small deeds done on a daily basis and it is those daily achievements that can reward you with the feelings of accomplishment and achievement. The more you work on your goals, the more confident you become, the less you worry about other people.
There is one more reason why is that so: The more time you invest in reaching your goals, the more you realize that little can be accomplished without the help of other people. In this way, other people go from being your competitors, to being your left hand on the path of realization of your dreams.
This relationship that begins to be built on this stage of life can be crucial for your success. What is more, this relationship must not be built without a specific purpose. No matter what, you always have to strive to build a win win relationship, that is a relationship in which both parties will benefit from it.
If you realize the importance of having this kind of relationships in your life, and not just in business but also in personal life, your life can change dramatically. People are always willing to do more and invest more in the things that they see also benefits them. So you always need to first let them know how a certain thing will be in their favor as well.
CONCLUSION – BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Believe you can do it, make a plan and start to do small steps towards your goals. Small deeds lead to big rewards. If you believe in yourself, there is nothing that could stop you and there will be no reason to compare yourself to others. If you believe in yourself, the sudden drive will appear inside of your body and you will have no other choice than to go work on our goals.
When this drive appears, you will become unstoppable. You will only see the road that leads you to the realization of your dream, the opportunities that come when building relationships with other people and as a result more and more achievements will appear, hence you will be left with more self belief than you ever thought possible.
Go in the direction of your dream, build an enormous self belief, start working hard every day, build as many win win relationships as possible and see the world changing in front of your eyes. Believe in yourself, in your capacities and your strengths. If you believe that you can do it, then there is no other way possible. GO FOR IT!