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Month: February 2020

How to Overcome Insecurity: Why Am I So Insecure?

This question has been bugging me since long and finally I have decided to research and write about it. Basically what I found out was that our insecurities didn’t grow overnight. They have been brewing since long and it’s only when they alter our behavior when we stop and realize: what exactly went wrong?

The most common reason is childhood trauma. If you had been told something over and over again e.g you’re not good enough, you are shy etc. Chances are that you end up buying into it. This translates into an insecurity in your later stages of life.

Secondly, it’s the constant negative self talk. It’s like a monster who wants to be fed and the more you feed it the bigger it grows. Which is why you should be very mindful of how you address yourself. I am always interested in giving out actionable points so here are some:
1- First of all start writing all your negative self talk in second person. Example instead of writing I am a failure, I am too scared write you are a failure, you are too afraid. Soon you will start noticing that you can separate yourself from these labels that your mind embosses on you.

2- Highlight your strength, repeat them in your mind, infront of the mirror and ultimately start introducing yourself using your strengths for instance I would say I am kind, caring, helpful, future looking, strong willed and a good listener. The idea is to repeat this enough times that you start believing in it.

3- Stop looking for external validation. Personally I get very motivated when my boss praises me in work groups and emails. And although there is no harm in that, but I should be confident enough in my skills and talent that they keep me motivated at all times: even when performance or statistics don’t support the same.

4- Battle your fear of failure daily and kill it!
Ask yourself: what’s the worse that could happen? Whenever faced with challenges, when anxiety hits the roof, I ask myself this question and the answer always remains the same: it’s not or will not be the end of the world. There are many other jobs to do, many other countries to visit, many other things to learn, many other careers to pursue- the options are limitless!

5- Stop chasing perfectionism. Let’s face it: No one is perfect. We all have our good and bad side and if we focus on the good long enough, chances are that the bad may be minimized. Again speaking of actionable points: do proofread your emails or assignments- but just twice, not 5 times!
-Point is to get the message across in communication, if your message can be deciphered by the other person easily then consider it a job well done.
-Give it your best, sometimes even your best may fall short but still you would know you did everything you could.
-A job finished is always a job well done than work in progress, always remember!!

So free yourself from the burden of your own insecurities. Our time in this world is limited: do you want to waste a lot of it overthinking and going through negativity over and over again? Or do you want to create history, do good work, fast work, and lots of work!! The choice is yours and trust me it really is a choice 😊

Can’t sleep?

To anyone reading this from anywhere in the world, you’re not alone. I’ve had sleep issues myself in the past and I know how it feels like. You must be thinking it never gets better but trust me I’m living proof that it does.

Just keep hoping
Just keep living
One day at a time ❤️

Coping with grief and loss

There are certain events in life that have no positives, no matter what angle you view them through. The post is specifically about losing a loved one who left the world a bit too early.

In the hustle and bustle of life, it is events like these that get us thinking: what are we exactly doing here? The existential type of questions that are otherwise ignored.

You cannot tell a person to stop being sad or to move on with their life because honestly, this process is different for everyone, including it’s timelines.

First, you deal with the fact that they are gone. That all the mega plans you had made with them will never come to life.

Once you get across this, next is getting used to living without them. In this phase it’s the little things that remind you of them.

In my opinion, one thing that really helps to cope is realizing that we are all here for a finite time period. Based on this fact I also fear that I’ll spend my entire time keeping my head done in my 9-5 only to realize one day that my time is up.

While this puts me at caution, it also motivates me to work towards the things that really matter to me. To not procrastinate. I’d like to pass on the same advice, do what you truly believe in, follow your gut- it somehow already knows what you want. And live a life that you’ll always be proud of!

One year of blogging

Yayyy! Never was I interested in blogging however this was my refuge, my safe space last year when I was in probably one of my lowest points.

I want to thank each and every one of my readers. This space became like a community for me and it really helped me so thanks once again!

I do want to get back to it and post regularly, before that need to sort some things on my end but I’ll be back for sure! 👊🏻

Are you here for the long game?

The day I realized that the person I want to become, the one I idolize is years away from today was the day I got much clarity in life.

I used to be the person who wanted instant gratification. This does not mean that I believed in success without putting in the work since I have always been a hard worker. However it means that things that take years to master, I expected to happen in months. And those that take months to happen in weeks.
Having such a belief system always left me disappointed in myself. As I had set some unrealistic goals for myself, which is why I was unable to meet them at most times.


When life hit me in the face I made a promise to myself that I will become a
legend, that is for sure, however it will take years and maybe decades and I should be okay with that.

I AM IN IT FOR THE LONG GAME.

Vocation

As per oxford dictionary:

“𝒂 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒖𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒓 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒄𝒄𝒖𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏”

Most of us often get stuck on the question: what’s our vocation?

I recently came across a video of Jay Shetty which was extremely helpful. I want you guys to go over it as well, it will give you much clarity:

https://youtu.be/fG3EUMArrU0

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